Designing days that don’t feel like SURVIVAL MODE [A prompt for slow living mom creatives]

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This simple. little. question has been quietly reshaping my days. Guiding me away from the shoulds and towards what I actually need.

• Helping me let go of guilt

• Tune into myself

• And embrace slower, more intentional daily choices.

Decadence often feels like something reserved for “one day”

or a special occasion … or a piece of cake.

But when my mom took my kids for a less than 24-hour sleepover at 2 in the afternoon one day I found myself at a crossroads…

• I should use this opportunity to clean the house.

• I could put in my airpods, have a dance party and enjoy getting this project done.

But then a little voice in my head said: “What would feel decadent right now?” and my gut SCREAMED- take a bath and read your book, crawl into bed at 3 in the afternoon and watch a show, order chinese, relax and get some rest.

And that’s exactly what I did and it DID feel decadent in all the best ways.

Choosing what feels decadent isn’t about being selfish, overindulgent or lazy—it’s about alignment.

• Showing up as my fullest self, for me and my family

• Leaning into what my heart craves most

• And allowing me to access what I actually want in any given moment sans the conditioning.

This simple question has seeped into my daily decision making process now

Helping me reframe my choices—from small things, like which tea do I want today or how I want to spend the next 10 minute lull while the kids are actually engrossed in their own activity, to bigger shifts, like how I design my days and spend my time.

The most jarring thing about watching this day I recorded back was how little I smiled. How I can let the wave of pressure and responsibility crash into me… and that’s not how I want my kids to see me… and ultimately take care of themselves.

There’s something about the word decadent that puts me in another mindset.

It helps kick me out of the monotonous “ok” rut I can find myself in amidst the day to day activities and ebbs and flows of guiding other humans in life and into a space I don’t normally allow myself to access.

Because my goal in life is to be more than just ok. Every day I’m working towards peace, and fulfillment. Accessing this through creativity, presence, minimalism and slow living. Finding ways to be more me.

(Which is not to say that those practices are what’s right for you.) That’s what I love about this prompt- it helps YOU access what YOU need.

For me, decadence has…

become less about indulgence and more about alignment. It’s about giving myself permission to live a life that feels good. And isn’t that what we all actually want?

So I’m opting for decadence in even the smallest moments. Instead of trying to juice every free second I have out of my day for productivity, I’m going to ask my ever-evolving self (who might need one thing today and another thing tomorrow) what would feel decadent right now?

• And that might just look like sitting here, savoring my favorite tea that I’ve reheated 10 times today, and letting the light pour in.

• Sometimes, decadence might mean stepping away from it all to be with me.

• And sometimes it’s in the small wins of doing something spontaneous with the kids that makes their eyes light up.

So give it a try. Ask yourself: What would feel decadent right now?

I’d love to hear about it in the comments:

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