What if my businesses 'never worked out' because...

I was driving the other day after dropping off the kids with my amazing mother-in-love. Windows down. Arm out- feeling the breeze as I cruised along listening to this (new to me) artist.

When this phrase popped into my head:

“What if my businesses ‘never worked out’ because I was meant to be doing this?”

‘This’ being:

• nurturing and unschooling my kids

• being there to coach their tee ball team, teach a co-op class and run Lego club

• to be- writing and sharing when it feels good, traveling and living my life more than finding ROI in my actions

I put ‘never worked out’ in quotes too because I do this often… I miss the greatness in the present (and past) striving for something bigger in the future. (when I could be having it right now.)

I’ve been working on this. Not letting my perfectionism and conditioned way of being, take away from the joy I’m experiencing now.

(receipts- my current lock screen)

Because in all reality- my past businesses have worked out.

Maybe not always in the way I was expecting- but certainly in the tools and knowledge I have today.

• And better yet- it lead me to find the creative work that fuels me now.

• The projects that I create only for me- not for public consumption. And the articles and courses I love to create and share for others too.

This article from

Amie McNee

then landed in my inbox and felt like YES- THIS is what I’m talking about✨

here’s what jumped out to me:

Secret third option: The middle class creative.

What if you don’t need to go viral to become viable? What if you don’t need a huge investment to make it work? What if you don’t need millions of people seeing your work? What if you don’t need a 7 figure, 3 book deal with a big 5 publisher?

I believe, there is a secret third option. And it is more accessible than ever.

Amie goes on to explain: How you become a middle class artist.

I think it’s SO TRUE:

1. That we’ve been sold this “go big or go home narrative”

2. And that we’re awakening to the fact that it’s false (re: this article + this article I wrote)

3. That an intentional shift is coming

4. And that there is another way for us to live simple, intentional lives, fueled by our creativity and mothering and LIVING.

And in all honesty, until this carride, I didn’t realize the relief I’d feel in “being able to focus more on my mothering.”

That me not wanting to be a ‘Boss Mom’ doesn’t mean I lack ambition or that my past businesses were a waste because I “have nothing to show for it” now.

That instead that knowledge and ability can support where I want to focus my time and energy today.

And that living my life this way- heavily leaning into my mothering and resting in my creativity- does not make me less than.

It’s all a little exciting…

(As cheesy as it sounds) to be able to ‘Tune In’ to myself and move from what feels good to me.

• To take actions with less conditioning.

• To declutter the noise

• And learn how to be happy being me.

Maybe you relate? Maybe Definitely I’m processing this idea out loud.